the forgotten thought process

most girls think about their wedding day and plan it from the time they turn five. it's like something clicks in our brain that someday prince charming is supposed to sweep us off our feet, fall in love with us, marry us, and then we live happily ever after. we're set up for failure. marriage is about more than just love. yes, that's a key factor, but that's not all. it's an agreement on how to live life. before you can even think about marrying the man of your dreams, you need to sit and talk about what kind of family you need to have. are your morals in tune? what are your parenting methods going to be? do you want to be parents? if so, to how many children? what happens when you don't get along with the in-laws? do you have a plan? do you have a schedule to be in a certain type of living arrangement by a certain point in your life? there are so many things to consider rather than just saying "I love him, and that is all that matters." i know im not an expert on relationships, but i've watched them flourish and fall apart and can learn from others mistakes. put thought into your relationships, they don't affect just you, nor do they just affect the present.